What’s the one question kids ask over and over again that can drive you so crazy that you contemplate running far, far away, never to be heard from again?
As in, why is the sky blue? Why do cars drive on the right side of the road? Why are we having sandwiches for lunch? Why do I have to go to school? Why are you doing it like that?
“Why? Why? Why? Why? Why?“
While raising my stepchildren and helping take care of my nieces (I don’t have any children of my own), I heard this word more times than I care to recount.
But I also believe it is the one question that many of us adults should be asking ourselves quit often, but don’t.
The reason I say this is because asking why helps us get to the heart of the matter. It enables you figure out the reason why you do things, which makes it easier to change those behaviors.
For instance, lately I’ve been struggling with getting my workouts in. In the past, I always looked forward to going for a walk or closing the door on my home gym and getting some anxiety out. Now, I have to drag myself kicking and screaming.
So, I ask myself, why?
Well, it’s partially because I traveled all last week and I’m still trying to get back into the swing of things back home.
Plus, I feel somewhat bored with doing the same old thing over and over again (walking around the same tired block or getting on the same treadmill while looking out the same window), all of which is making it harder to bring myself to do these things…even though I know that they are good for me.
By identifying my whys, I now know exactly what I need to work on to overcome this issue.
Since my traveling days are over, that one more or less takes care of itself. When it comes to the boredom, this tells me that I need to get a bit more creative and come up with other solutions that make me want to get my heart rate up.
For instance, I could turn my favorite music on in my office and dance. I could also join a local fitness class or sign up for a 5k to keep myself motivated.
I have a ton of options, a number of different things I can do to help me reach my goals. All I had to do was figure out why I was struggling so I knew what I needed to fix.
So, if you feel like you’re struggling with something, that there is a goal that you want to achieve but can’t seem to figure out how, ask yourself why. And keep asking yourself this question until you get to the heart of the matter.
“I’m not eating as healthy as I’d like.”
“Because I’m tired of chicken and salads and veggies all of the time.”
“Because I don’t know enough about how to use spices and herbs to change things up.”
Because I haven’t taken the time to watch online videos or read articles on the topic.
Because I’ve been more worried about money and getting enough business.
Because I work for myself, which means that sometimes things are great and other times, well, not so much.
Because I tend to only market my services when work is slow, even though I know that I should be marketing them at all times.
Because I’m uncomfortable with marketing.
Because I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to market myself as effectively as I can.
What did I discover about myself by continuing to ask “why?” I learned that if I would just set aside time to learn more about marketing, my income won’t fluctuate so much, which will leave me less stressed and give me more time to focus on learning new and creative ways to cook, ultimately helping me reach my health-related goals.
Now, try this yourself and see where your why leads you.
And if you want, share what you found below. Sometimes it’s just nice to get it out!
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